I do wonder at times where some of these critics come from. A bad review for this film from Kelly Vance because it's bitter! I gather he hasn't been there yet, although it's hard to imagine any of us avoiding the truth of "Amour" if we live long enough. I had a difficult time holding in the tears remembering the similar death of my late husband of pancreatic cancer at 57 and of my mother, from heart disease at 88. Why do Americans (in particular) have such a difficult time acknowledging life as it's lived."Amour" should be required viewing for any who plan to live to old age--most of us it seems. It's painful but so very true. I hope very much Riva wins the Oscar--her performance is beyond any of the others I've seen this year.