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The Object of My Affection (1998)



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Nicholas Hytner (The Crucible) directed this Wendy Wasserstein screenplay, adapted from Stephen McCauley's novel, about the romantic mismatch of a gay man and a young pregnant woman. When literary agent Sidney Miller (Alan Alda) and his wife Constance (Allison Janney) have a dinner party, Constance's social-worker stepsister Nina Borowski (Jennifer Aniston) attends without her lawyer boyfriend Vince McBride (John Pankow). Also present are gay schoolteacher George Hanson (Paul Rudd) and his lover, Dr. Robert Joley (Tim Daly). George learns from Nina that he's being dumped by Robert, a scene ensues, and Nina then invites George to stay in the spare room of her Brooklyn apartment. Nina still has sex with boyfriend Vince, but during late-night talks, she begins to bond with her gay roommate. Nina and George take dance lessons at the local senior citizen's community center, and Gershwin's "You Were Meant for Me" sets the tone for romance as the two become soul mates. Unfortunately, shortly after their love blooms, Nina learns she's pregnant by Vince, who is no longer the object of her affections. Instead of telling the unwanted Vince right away, Nina asks George to join her in raising the child. George stays on, but in the months that follow, he also begins to see men again. Robert takes him along to a Connecticut conference where drama critic Rodney Fraser (Nigel Hawthorne) has Paul James (Amo Gulinello) in tow. George and Paul have an instant attraction, and this prompts everyone involved to reassess their emotional commitments. ~ Bhob Stewart, Rovimore
Rating: R (adult situations/language, sex, violence)
Genre: Drama, Comedy
Directed By:
Written By: Wendy Wasserstein
In Theaters:
On DVD: Jan 8, 2002
Twentieth Century Fox Home Entertainment


Jennifer Aniston
as Nina Borowski
Paul Rudd
as George Hanson
Alan Alda
as Sid Miller
Nigel Hawthorne
as Rodney Fraser
John Pankow
as Vince McBride
Tim Daly
as Dr. Robert Joley
Allison Janney
as Constance Miller
Steve Zahn
as Frank Hanson
Amo Gulinello
as Paul James
Bruce Altman
as Dr. Goldstein
Kevin Carroll
as Louis Crowley
Lauren Varija Pratt
as Sally Miller
Kali Rocha
as Melissa Marx
Lena Cardwell
as Girl at Community Ce...
Natalie B. Kikkenbor...
as Girl at Community Ce...
Lauren Chen
as Violin Player
Liam Aiken
as Nathan
Janet Zarish
as Dinner Guest
Ellen Tobie
as Dinner Guest
Virl Andrick
as Dinner Guest
Robert C. Lee
as Dinner Guest
Bradley White
as Stephen Saint
Marilyn Dobrin
as Mrs. Sarni
Midori Nakamura
as Nina's Colleague
Joan Copeland
as Madame Reynolds
Salem Ludwig
as Mr. Shapiro
Antonia Rey
as Mrs. Ochoa
Danny Darrow
as Nina's Dance Partner
Sean Rademaker
as School Child
Heather Thompson
as School Child
Gabriel Macht
as Steve Casillo
John Roland
as TV Anchor
Rosanna Scotto
as TV Anchor
Miguel Maldonado
as Colin Powell
Peter Maloney
as Desk Clerk
Bette Henritze
as Mrs. Skinner
Iraida Polanco
as Carmelita
Sarah Knowlton
as Caroline Colucci
Daniel Cosgrove
as Trotter Bull
Damian Young
as Romeo & Juliet Direc...
Rebecca Eichenberger
as Wedding Guest
Jane Bodle
as Wedding Guest
Audra McDonald
as Wedding Singer
Paz de la Huerta
as 13-Year-Old Sally
Sylvia Ader
as Ballroom Dancer
Howard Atlee
as Ballroom Dancer
Jerome Bynder
as Ballroom Dancer
Liz Chrystea
as Ballroom Dancer
Howard Cutler
as Ballroom Dancer
Virginia Emerson
as Ballroom Dancer
Edward Furs
as Ballroom Dancer
Vernon Gray
as Ballroom Dancer
Arthur W. Guenther
as Ballroom Dancer
Miriam Hamilton
as Ballroom Dancer
Betty Hudson
as Ballroom Dancer
June Kawai
as Ballroom Dancer
Dana Lorge
as Ballroom Dancer
T. Scott Nonnon
as Ballroom Dancer
Sally Parrish
as Ballroom Dancer
Larney Rutledge
as Ballroom Dancer
Catherine Saliba
as Ballroom Dancer
Matthew Savage Aibel
as Brooklyn School Sing...
Carmen Andino
as Brooklyn School Sing...
Vera Butcher
as Brooklyn School Sing...
Bienka Jean-Charles
as Brooklyn School Sing...
Joseph M. Christense...
as Brooklyn School Sing...
Alfredo Cosme
as Brooklyn School Sing...
Namibia Donadio
as Brooklyn School Sing...
Tyler Flagg
as Brooklyn School Sing...
Gilda Flores
as Brooklyn School Sing...
Sofia Flores
as Brooklyn School Sing...
Brighid Gannon
as Brooklyn School Sing...
Kevin "Spider" Ganno...
as Brooklyn School Sing...
Kyla Garcia
as Brooklyn School Sing...
Olivia Harrington
as Brooklyn School Sing...
Ashli Haynes
as Brooklyn School Sing...
Gabriel Hernández
as Brooklyn School Sing...
Heather Ichihashi
as Brooklyn School Sing...
Max Kelly
as Brooklyn School Sing...
Francis Kenny
as Brooklyn School Sing...
Lily Norton
as Brooklyn School Sing...
Jatze-Rae Ramos
as Brooklyn School Sing...
David Sánchez
as Brooklyn School Sing...
Skye Lilly Torres
as Brooklyn School Sing...
Emily Turonis
as Brooklyn School Sing...
Jackie Ventre
as Brooklyn School Sing...
Zom Westhof
as Brooklyn School Sing...
Kadie Winckelmann
as Brooklyn School Sing...
Natasha Edwards
as Community Center Gir...
Fani Lopez
as Community Center Gir...
Roxie Maizler
as Community Center Gir...
Sanjae Manbauman
as Community Center Gir...
Victoria Marie Thoma...
as Community Center Gir...
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Critic Reviews for The Object of My Affection

All Critics (49) | Top Critics (13)

The plot's hokey contrivances and the theatrical shtick tend to prevail over the sporadic moments of insight and emotional truth.

Full Review… | March 26, 2009
Top Critic

It never persuades you it belongs on the big screen.

Full Review… | January 26, 2006
Time Out
Top Critic

The best romantic comedy so far this year.

Full Review… | June 18, 2002
San Francisco Chronicle
Top Critic

Paul Rudd is charming, and some of the scenes are intelligently written and played, but at a recent screening people on all sides of me were squirming in discomfort.

Full Review… | January 1, 2000
New York Magazine/Vulture
Top Critic

While some of the solutions are a little facile, the film nevertheless succeeds, due in large part to a luminous performance by Jennifer Aniston...

Full Review… | January 1, 2000
Top Critic

The Object of My Affection is one of the best romantic comedies I've seen in ages.

Full Review… | April 9, 2005
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Audience Reviews for The Object of My Affection


Jennifer Aniston made some interesting choices in taking movie roles in the nineties, before she became queen of the agitating awful rom-coms. This indie comedy, about a social worker and her gay roommate, shows them having a strained relationship while also dealing with their own love lives. I'm torn on whether or not I genuinely like this film, because the characters are enjoyable to watch, and the way they maneuver between the blurred lines of sexuality is interesting, but the way sexual orientation is depicted leaves me cold. So many films have tried to characterize sexuality as a spectrum that involves men who are gay experimenting with women to a point of domesticity. This was done successfully on "Will and Grace" and the same concept was exploited in "Gigli" but to an outside observer it rarely makes sense. Here, at least, it's clearly defined that George has no interest in a sexual relationship with Nina, and just wants to help her raise her child, but Nina is unaware, which tilts perspective. This film handles its characters' motivations rather well and shows the dysfunction in their relationship with aplomb, but it would be great for once to see a gay man and straight woman be friends without the added drama of sexual tension. Otherwise it's a sweet little film that explores modern day relationships and their many layers.

Spencer S.

Super Reviewer


This glossy, unusual romantic comedy is great with the appealling cast including Jennifer Aniston and Paul Rudd.

Dean McKenna

Super Reviewer


A pretty good movie, though I did feel a bit disappointed in the end but it was the proper way to end it I suppose. Good to watch if you're in the mood for something emotional I suppose.

Wildaly M

Super Reviewer

The Object of My Affection Quotes

Rodney Fraser: I don't think one should be too hard on oneself if the object of one's affection returns the favor with less enthusiasm than one might have hoped.
– Submitted by Greg C (3 years ago)

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