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We Don't Live Here Anymore (2004)


Average Rating: 6.4/10
Reviews Counted: 123
Fresh: 80
Rotten: 43

Critics Consensus: We Don't Live Here Anymore is often overly moody and grim, but it's made watchable by the strong performances for its four principal actors.

Average Rating: 6.8/10
Reviews Counted: 36
Fresh: 26
Rotten: 10

Critics Consensus: We Don't Live Here Anymore is often overly moody and grim, but it's made watchable by the strong performances for its four principal actors.


Average Rating: 3.2/5
User Ratings: 8,672



Movie Info

Two marriages and four lives are brought to a crossroads by infidelity in this drama, based on a pair of short stories by author Andre Dubus. Jack (Mark Ruffalo) is a college professor whose marriage to Terry (Laura Dern) has been going through a rough patch. Beyond the tensions over Terry's failings as a mother and housekeeper, Jack is deeply infatuated with Edith (Naomi Watts), the beautiful wife of his best friend, Hank (Peter Krause), a fellow professor and struggling poet. As it happens, … More

R (adult situations/language)
Directed By:
Written By:
Larry Gross
In Theaters:
Dec 14, 2004
Box Office:
Warner Independent - Official Site


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Critic Reviews for We Don't Live Here Anymore

All Critics (132) | Top Critics (39) | Fresh (80) | Rotten (43) | DVD (20)

We Don't Live Here Anymore is, you might say, a movie for adults who are, perhaps, a smidge too impressed with being adults.

Full Review… | October 1, 2004
Orlando Sentinel
Top Critic

I was fully absorbed in the characters and their casually outrageous behavior.

Full Review… | September 9, 2004
New York Observer
Top Critic

We Don't Live Here Anymore deftly captures the pain and suffocation of people who have fallen out of love and don't know who to blame. It just forgets to allow them -- or the audience -- to feel anything else.

Full Review… | September 3, 2004
Miami Herald
Top Critic

Watts manages to make her Edith seem genuinely remorseful about her actions but unable to stop, and Ruffalo puts a believable hint of guilt in Jack's face that he carries through the film.

Full Review… | September 2, 2004
Arizona Republic
Top Critic

Earnest, overbearing and fully depressing, We Don't Live Here Anymore features a quartet of fine performances that are somewhat undermined by the numbing, one-note tone of the entire enterprise.

August 27, 2004
Detroit News
Top Critic

Painful, powerful adaptation of two of Andre Dubus' beautifully frank stories.

Full Review… | August 27, 2004
Denver Post
Top Critic

Movie about adultery for adults only.

Full Review… | December 29, 2010
Common Sense Media

Summons the exposed anatomy of adultery out of its awkward secrecy, casting an intriguing light that gently and intelligently intimates why infidelity can self-destruct one marriage, and repair another.

Full Review… | May 15, 2007
Long Island Press

For anyone who finds films about affairs boring, We Don't Live Here Anymorecould feel like being stuck in a bad marriage - for all the wrong reasons.

Full Review… | July 15, 2005

(...) Infrecuente en su incisiva exploración de conflictos humanos.

Full Review… | June 5, 2005
Uruguay Total

... feels like one of the saddest songs you're ever heard.

Full Review… | January 29, 2005
Arkansas Democrat-Gazette

A modest film that is surprisingly effective in its directness and fascinating for its complex portrayals of marital distress in action.

Full Review… | January 20, 2005
Apollo Guide

Like the movie's title, there doesn't appear to be anybody home in this picture.

Full Review… | December 13, 2004
Movie Metropolis

[Y]our expectations of climax, resolution, consolation fall away and you're quite simply present in every detail of every moment.

Full Review… | November 19, 2004

So packed with serious themes that it's almost unbearable.

Full Review… | November 8, 2004
Shadows on the Wall

Keenly observed and laced with humor, Larry Gross' narrative has the kind of emotional power that derives from accumulation of detail and realistic dialogue.

Full Review… | November 6, 2004

Dubus, anticipating the dreaded Raymond Carver, is only concerned with the interiority of the characters. It's solipsism once removed; and in this film, it's that times four.

Full Review… | November 2, 2004
Premiere Magazine

Occasionally difficult to watch, but always gripping, and full of hard, painful truths, this is adult film making at its very best.

Full Review… | October 24, 2004

Great performances and candid dialogue don't make up all the essence of a great film. The actual story itself is where the film falls flat.

Full Review… | October 20, 2004
Film Threat

They never lived anywhere: the protagonists of this drama of marital stalemate embody a widespread social institution without ever reminding us of Earth as we know it.

Full Review… | October 19, 2004
Nick's Flick Picks

Portrays domestic discord with a squirmy accuracy that's a workable substitute for conceptual freshness.

Full Review… | October 1, 2004
Orlando Weekly

held together by the remarkably vivid and varied performances of Ruffalo, Dern, Watts and Krause, each of whom gets his or her share of juicy moments and sharp dialogue.

Full Review… | September 24, 2004
Kalamazoo Gazette

If one line can sum up a story, it's when Edith tells Jack, "Even adultery has a morality to it."...this is a good, tight script telling an involving story

Full Review… | September 19, 2004

Nothing more than a series of scenes set in darkened rooms in which grownups argue with and lie to each other. It is a Lifetime movie, only with a better cast.

Full Review… | September 18, 2004

Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf? gets in bed with Bob & Carol & Ted & Alice....The moody, muted finale doesn't leave the characters, it simply abandons them.

Full Review… | September 16, 2004

Audience Reviews for We Don't Live Here Anymore


Terry Linden: You gotta admit... even adultery has morality to it. 

"Ordinary Lives. Extraordinary Emotions."

Never have I watched a movie and been this turned off by the mere thought of it. We Don't Live Here Anymore is such a pretentious movie about two couples who cheat on each other. I will say I like Naomi Watts and Mark Ruffalo as actors but their characters along with Laura Dern(I don't care what anyone says; she's a horrible actress) and Peter Krause's characters are so selfish and and completely unlikable. I thought for a second that Dern's character was going to be decent, but that isn't the case either.

Basically by the hour mark I wanted all four characters to be shot. I didn't care how their marriages or affairs turned out; I just wanted the slow, melodramatic music to stop and the movie to end. It's a movie I really wish I wouldn't have watched and I don't say that too often. 

I never want to think about this movie again, but Dern's unbelievable crying fits are engraved into my brain. How can anyone enjoy watching her act? The "I don't care, fuck anyone you want" story gets old after about 10 minutes. Then all we are left with is the talents of Watts and Ruffalo, which in my opinion is the reason this is almost watchable.

Melvin White

Super Reviewer


A competently acted but predictable and formulaic melodrama centering around two couples who become sexually intertwined. The film's inability to give us a reason to care about any of the characters involved is its major downfall, since if we don't care whatsoever about any of these four miserable individuals, why would we want to learn about them? As said, the acting is superb, especially Ruffalo and Dern, but Krause's character gets left behind big time, and the kids that are treasured so much by the characters as well as the story in general get next to no development, which isn't good when you consider the film's emotionally heavy climax. A forgettable drama that needed more development and a story brave enough to take risks.

Dan Schultz
Dan Schultz

Super Reviewer

Quite depressing movie about two married couples having affairs with each other. Veeeery slow. Not a bad movie, but definitely not one that I would recommend to anyone.

Cynthia S.

Super Reviewer


It was a nice try, but the story is too time-worn to be interesting, the dialogue too stiff to be engaging, and the actors too removed to be sympathetic for. What a shame, too, because I absolutely LOVE Naomi Watts and Laura Dern.

Jennifer Xu

Super Reviewer

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