We Don't Live Here Anymore (2004)



Critic Consensus: We Don't Live Here Anymore is often overly moody and grim, but it's made watchable by the strong performances for its four principal actors.

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Two marriages and four lives are brought to a crossroads by infidelity in this drama, based on a pair of short stories by author Andre Dubus. Jack (Mark Ruffalo) is a college professor whose marriage to Terry (Laura Dern) has been going through a rough patch. Beyond the tensions over Terry's failings as a mother and housekeeper, Jack is deeply infatuated with Edith (Naomi Watts), the beautiful wife of his best friend, Hank (Peter Krause), a fellow professor and struggling poet. As it happens, … More

Rating: R (adult situations/language)
Genre: Drama
Directed By: ,
Written By: Larry Gross
In Theaters:
On DVD: Dec 14, 2004
Box Office: $1.9M
Warner Independent - Official Site


as Jack Linden

as Terry Linden

as Hank Evans

as Edith Evans

as Sean Linden

as Natasha Linden

as Sharon Evans

as Lollipop Girl

as Joe Ritchie

as Plumber

as Musician

as Musician
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Critic Reviews for We Don't Live Here Anymore

All Critics (132) | Top Critics (39)

We Don't Live Here Anymore is, you might say, a movie for adults who are, perhaps, a smidge too impressed with being adults.

Full Review… | October 1, 2004
Orlando Sentinel
Top Critic

I was fully absorbed in the characters and their casually outrageous behavior.

Full Review… | September 9, 2004
New York Observer
Top Critic

Movie about adultery for adults only.

Full Review… | December 29, 2010
Common Sense Media

Summons the exposed anatomy of adultery out of its awkward secrecy, casting an intriguing light that gently and intelligently intimates why infidelity can self-destruct one marriage, and repair another.

| May 15, 2007
Long Island Press

For anyone who finds films about affairs boring, We Don't Live Here Anymorecould feel like being stuck in a bad marriage - for all the wrong reasons.

Full Review… | July 15, 2005

(...) Infrecuente en su incisiva exploración de conflictos humanos.

Full Review… | June 5, 2005
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Audience Reviews for We Don't Live Here Anymore


Terry Linden: You gotta admit... even adultery has morality to it. 

"Ordinary Lives. Extraordinary Emotions."

Never have I watched a movie and been this turned off by the mere thought of it. We Don't Live Here Anymore is such a pretentious movie about two couples who cheat on each other. I will say I like Naomi Watts and Mark Ruffalo as actors but their characters along with Laura Dern(I don't care what anyone says; she's a horrible actress) and Peter Krause's characters are so selfish and and completely unlikable. I thought for a second that Dern's character was going to be decent, but that isn't the case either.

Basically by the hour mark I wanted all four characters to be shot. I didn't care how their marriages or affairs turned out; I just wanted the slow, melodramatic music to stop and the movie to end. It's a movie I really wish I wouldn't have watched and I don't say that too often. 

I never want to think about this movie again, but Dern's unbelievable crying fits are engraved into my brain. How can anyone enjoy watching her act? The "I don't care, fuck anyone you want" story gets old after about 10 minutes. Then all we are left with is the talents of Watts and Ruffalo, which in my opinion is the reason this is almost watchable.

Melvin White

Super Reviewer


A competently acted but predictable and formulaic melodrama centering around two couples who become sexually intertwined. The film's inability to give us a reason to care about any of the characters involved is its major downfall, since if we don't care whatsoever about any of these four miserable individuals, why would we want to learn about them? As said, the acting is superb, especially Ruffalo and Dern, but Krause's character gets left behind big time, and the kids that are treasured so much by the characters as well as the story in general get next to no development, which isn't good when you consider the film's emotionally heavy climax. A forgettable drama that needed more development and a story brave enough to take risks.

Dan Schultz
Dan Schultz

Super Reviewer

Quite depressing movie about two married couples having affairs with each other. Veeeery slow. Not a bad movie, but definitely not one that I would recommend to anyone.

Cynthia S.

Super Reviewer

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