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We Don't Live Here Anymore (2004)



Average Rating: 6.4/10
Reviews Counted: 123
Fresh: 80 | Rotten: 43

We Don't Live Here Anymore is often overly moody and grim, but it's made watchable by the strong performances for its four principal actors.


Average Rating: 6.8/10
Critic Reviews: 36
Fresh: 26 | Rotten: 10

We Don't Live Here Anymore is often overly moody and grim, but it's made watchable by the strong performances for its four principal actors.



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Two marriages and four lives are brought to a crossroads by infidelity in this drama, based on a pair of short stories by author Andre Dubus. Jack (Mark Ruffalo) is a college professor whose marriage to Terry (Laura Dern) has been going through a rough patch. Beyond the tensions over Terry's failings as a mother and housekeeper, Jack is deeply infatuated with Edith (Naomi Watts), the beautiful wife of his best friend, Hank (Peter Krause), a fellow professor and struggling poet. As it happens,



Larry Gross

Dec 14, 2004


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We Don't Live Here Anymore is, you might say, a movie for adults who are, perhaps, a smidge too impressed with being adults.

October 1, 2004 Full Review Source: Orlando Sentinel
Orlando Sentinel
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I was fully absorbed in the characters and their casually outrageous behavior.

September 9, 2004 Full Review Source: New York Observer
New York Observer
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We Don't Live Here Anymore deftly captures the pain and suffocation of people who have fallen out of love and don't know who to blame. It just forgets to allow them -- or the audience -- to feel anything else.

September 3, 2004 Full Review Source: Miami Herald
Miami Herald
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Watts manages to make her Edith seem genuinely remorseful about her actions but unable to stop, and Ruffalo puts a believable hint of guilt in Jack's face that he carries through the film.

September 2, 2004 Full Review Source: Arizona Republic
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Earnest, overbearing and fully depressing, We Don't Live Here Anymore features a quartet of fine performances that are somewhat undermined by the numbing, one-note tone of the entire enterprise.

August 27, 2004
Detroit News
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Painful, powerful adaptation of two of Andre Dubus' beautifully frank stories.

August 27, 2004 Full Review Source: Denver Post
Denver Post
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Movie about adultery for adults only.

December 29, 2010 Full Review Source: Common Sense Media
Common Sense Media

Summons the exposed anatomy of adultery out of its awkward secrecy, casting an intriguing light that gently and intelligently intimates why infidelity can self-destruct one marriage, and repair another.

May 15, 2007 Full Review
Long Island Press

For anyone who finds films about affairs boring, We Don't Live Here Anymorecould feel like being stuck in a bad marriage - for all the wrong reasons.

July 15, 2005 Full Review Source: RTE Interactive (Dublin, Ireland)

(...) Infrecuente en su incisiva exploración de conflictos humanos.

June 5, 2005 Full Review Source: Uruguay Total
Uruguay Total

... feels like one of the saddest songs you're ever heard.

January 29, 2005 Full Review Source: Arkansas Democrat-Gazette
Arkansas Democrat-Gazette

A modest film that is surprisingly effective in its directness and fascinating for its complex portrayals of marital distress in action.

January 20, 2005 Full Review Source: Apollo Guide
Apollo Guide

Like the movie's title, there doesn't appear to be anybody home in this picture.

December 13, 2004 Full Review Source: Movie Metropolis
Movie Metropolis

[Y]our expectations of climax, resolution, consolation fall away and you're quite simply present in every detail of every moment.

November 19, 2004 Full Review Source:

So packed with serious themes that it's almost unbearable.

November 8, 2004 Full Review Source: Shadows on the Wall
Shadows on the Wall

Keenly observed and laced with humor, Larry Gross' narrative has the kind of emotional power that derives from accumulation of detail and realistic dialogue.

November 6, 2004 Full Review Source: EmanuelLevy.Com

Dubus, anticipating the dreaded Raymond Carver, is only concerned with the interiority of the characters. It's solipsism once removed; and in this film, it's that times four.

November 2, 2004 Full Review Source: Premiere Magazine
Premiere Magazine

Occasionally difficult to watch, but always gripping, and full of hard, painful truths, this is adult film making at its very best.

October 24, 2004 Full Review Source: FilmFocus

Great performances and candid dialogue don't make up all the essence of a great film. The actual story itself is where the film falls flat.

October 20, 2004 Full Review Source: Film Threat
Film Threat

They never lived anywhere: the protagonists of this drama of marital stalemate embody a widespread social institution without ever reminding us of Earth as we know it.

October 19, 2004 Full Review Source: Nick's Flick Picks
Nick's Flick Picks

Portrays domestic discord with a squirmy accuracy that's a workable substitute for conceptual freshness.

October 1, 2004 Full Review Source: Orlando Weekly
Orlando Weekly

held together by the remarkably vivid and varied performances of Ruffalo, Dern, Watts and Krause, each of whom gets his or her share of juicy moments and sharp dialogue.

September 24, 2004 Full Review Source: Kalamazoo Gazette
Kalamazoo Gazette

If one line can sum up a story, it's when Edith tells Jack, "Even adultery has a morality to it."...this is a good, tight script telling an involving story

September 19, 2004 Full Review Source:

Nothing more than a series of scenes set in darkened rooms in which grownups argue with and lie to each other. It is a Lifetime movie, only with a better cast.

September 18, 2004 Full Review Source:

Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf? gets in bed with Bob & Carol & Ted & Alice....The moody, muted finale doesn't leave the characters, it simply abandons them.

September 16, 2004 Full Review Source: Boulder Weekly

Audience Reviews for We Don't Live Here Anymore

Terry Linden: You gotta admit... even adultery has morality to it. 

"Ordinary Lives. Extraordinary Emotions."

Never have I watched a movie and been this turned off by the mere thought of it. We Don't Live Here Anymore is such a pretentious movie about two couples who cheat on each other. I will say I like Naomi Watts and Mark Ruffalo as actors but their characters along with Laura Dern(I don't care what anyone says; she's a horrible actress) and Peter Krause's characters are so selfish and and completely unlikable. I thought for a second that Dern's character was going to be decent, but that isn't the case either.

Basically by the hour mark I wanted all four characters to be shot. I didn't care how their marriages or affairs turned out; I just wanted the slow, melodramatic music to stop and the movie to end. It's a movie I really wish I wouldn't have watched and I don't say that too often. 

I never want to think about this movie again, but Dern's unbelievable crying fits are engraved into my brain. How can anyone enjoy watching her act? The "I don't care, fuck anyone you want" story gets old after about 10 minutes. Then all we are left with is the talents of Watts and Ruffalo, which in my opinion is the reason this is almost watchable.
August 10, 2011
Melvin White

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A competently acted but predictable and formulaic melodrama centering around two couples who become sexually intertwined. The film's inability to give us a reason to care about any of the characters involved is its major downfall, since if we don't care whatsoever about any of these four miserable individuals, why would we want to learn about them? As said, the acting is superb, especially Ruffalo and Dern, but Krause's character gets left behind big time, and the kids that are treasured so much by the characters as well as the story in general get next to no development, which isn't good when you consider the film's emotionally heavy climax. A forgettable drama that needed more development and a story brave enough to take risks.
June 18, 2011
Dan Schultz

Super Reviewer

Quite depressing movie about two married couples having affairs with each other. Veeeery slow. Not a bad movie, but definitely not one that I would recommend to anyone.
April 10, 2011

Super Reviewer

It was a nice try, but the story is too time-worn to be interesting, the dialogue too stiff to be engaging, and the actors too removed to be sympathetic for. What a shame, too, because I absolutely LOVE Naomi Watts and Laura Dern.
July 13, 2009

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