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August 6, 2017
Good performances, mostly Laura Dern ?, incredibly depressing, based on stories by Andre Dubus
August 3, 2016
Intense and very well acted.
½ November 23, 2015
ok look at love and relationships and infidelity
July 29, 2015
A movie elevated by it's actors.
½ July 14, 2015
Scathing look at two couples and the painful stages of their disintegrating marriages. Wonderfully acted, especially from Laura Dern.
July 11, 2015
There is nothing new here, but just great acting from the whole cast, and especially Mark Ruffalo and Laura Dern who really chew up the scenes they are in.
½ April 24, 2015
"We Don't Live Here Anymore" begins at the ending of two marriages. The couples are Jack and Terry (Mark Ruffalo and Laura Dern), Hank and Edith (Peter Krause and Naomi Watts). The four have been friends for years, and they know each other too well - still there, though, is the plausibility that they're attracted to one another. Maybe that's why they eventually decide to play spouse swap and hope the consequences aren't too cruel. If they weren't so unlikable, we'd possibly relish watching their potentially juicy infidelities. But no. "We Don't Live Here Anymore" doesn't do anything besides give us too many shrill arguments, too many selfish characters. Dramas that entail a marriage on the rocks can make for compelling entertainment (cough "Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf?"), but a single false move can place a so-called "marriage dissolution" film in a purgatory less enjoyable than that of a mid-life-crisis. It's too bad that "We Don't Live Here Anymore" is a movie made completely out of false moves without a hint of truth in sight.
But anyway, back to the couples. They were all once happily married, but kids, lost opportunities, and an overall feeling of discontent has left them miserable. Jack and Edith are having an affair, meeting in shady hotels, forests, and even each other's houses to rendezvous - but all dirtiness aside, both feel much too guilty to do anything serious regarding their physical attraction. Terry, meanwhile, is dissatisfied in the role of a homemaker; with Jack's standoffishness to fuel the fire, she feels as though she is failing at the few jobs life throws at her every day. Hank, the most thinly written character in the movie and possibly a sociopath, is a serial cheater who doesn't understand why infidelity could ruin a marriage - to him, lack of conscience is a given. Sooner or later, though, the truth about the entire situation comes to light, but it's surprising just how much it doesn't have an effect on us.
The writing is stilted, the dialogue coming across with the forced effort of the play that draped the core of 1977's "Opening Night", and the characters just aren't winsome enough for us to care about what happens to them. Jack and Edith's affair is only thinly developed - chemistry darts around them. Technically, this probably should happen - they aren't meant to be together - but the desperation doesn't seem drenched in sadness, instead boredom. And poor Dern and Krause: Dern, as terrific as she is, is given a role that requires her to be raucous at the worst of times, and Krause seems to dwell under the shadow of his fellow actors in the thin, philandering husband role.
Other complaints abound (strange how characters have flashbacks from the camera's point-of-view instead of their own, how a voiceover details the film for a narrow five minutes then miraculously disappears), but I'd rather not dwell on them. The performances are good, but "We Don't Live Here Anymore" doesn't have enough of a soul to make sitting through its bleak 98 minutes worth it.
½ December 21, 2013
Upeat näyttelijäsuoritukset! Toisella katselukerralla tykkäsin tästä jostain syystä enemmän... (Suom. Emme asu enää täällä)
½ August 19, 2013
One of the most underrated films of 2004.
½ April 12, 2013
Very hard to watch, almost painful, and I'm a sucker for masochistic movies. Naomi Watts and Laura Dern are both amazing and give performances of sheer acidic honesty. Reminds me quite a bit of Your Friends & Neighbors which is equally bleak.
December 31, 2012
This one got almost no acclaim or exposure, but I liked it.
Appropriate, if not a coiincidence, that the two female leads were famous actresses, Laura Dern and Naomi Watts, and I, at least, had never heard of the two male leads.
Two couples experiment with an open relationship, and the heartache and scandal in the town as a result, seemed real and moving.
When it was over, one of the industry people, next to me at the screening, said that it was up for best cinematography, and what did I think. I didn't know what to say, I wasn't analyzing the movie, I was really touched by it. But again, a film that will not be remembered in the grand scheme of things.
Super Reviewer
December 28, 2012
Not a huge crowd pleaser but this film brings together strong actors who deliver strong performances. This truly is a life crossroads film depicting what attrition does to relationships and whether or not hard decisions are made.
½ December 21, 2012
Well written and superbly acted. What good, character-driven indie film making should be.
December 7, 2012
John Curran's Painted Veil was very good so i will definitely get round to seeing this...
December 2, 2012
This one hit a bit too close to home. But captured the essence of the betrayal of lover and friend perfectly!
½ September 18, 2012
We Don't Live Here Anymore certainly isn't a fun film. You don't go away from it feeling happy or good, except maybe when you compare yourself to the characters, as there's a good chance that you're a better person than all of them are. But if I were to promise joy that could be gleamed from the events that transpire within it, I would be setting you up for disappointment. This is one of those indie dramas about relationships and people treating each other poorly because they're pursuing what they desire, putting themselves above everyone else.

The main character is Jack (Mark Ruffalo), although this is far more of an ensemble than you might think. We know he's the main character because he has two or three scenes with voice-over narration, used in poor effect here. It reveals what he's thinking and might provide the only genuine laughs in the film, but it offers little insight and the movie wouldn't be any better or worse if it wasn't included. He's married to Terry (Laura Dern), and they even have a couple of children together. In the second scene, they're already fighting; it's clear that their marriage isn't the strongest.

This might be because Jack is having an affair with Edith (Naomi Watts), who is married to Jack's best friend, Hank (Peter Krause). Terry doesn't know, although she suspects, and Hank feels similarly. It comes as no surprise that the guilty parties suspect their spouses of cheating as well, although they almost seem to take comfort in it. They're cheating, and if their husband/wife is cheating as well, then it kind of justifies it. I'm not entirely sure, but that's what it seemed like.

We move through the plot at a very deliberate pace, watching the fights between the married people and witnessing the more interesting portions involving the cheating couples. When Jack and Terry are in the same room as one another, they always fight. That's pretty much a rule with this film. Edith and Hank are less interested in fighting, but also possibly less involved in each other as well. They take things day by day, feeling little emotion for each other. Hank is constantly at his computer trying to write, and Edith spends time with their one child, or with Jack.

Nobody treats anyone else in a manner that could be described as "nice." One could argue that Edith is treated well by Jack, but who knows exactly what he feels for her, or what she feels for him. Using someone for their body isn't exactly "nice" from where I'm standing. Sure, there isn't a bunch of yelling and swearing when it comes to the pair, but does that really matter? There's a conversation in the film that brought up whether or not you should love the person you have an affair with. I don't think a definitive conclusion was reached, but it doesn't really matter.

What seemed odd to me was that a large portion of the film seemed to be missing. I mentioned that Jack and Terry are constantly at war, fighting in practically every scene they share alone. This frequently ends in Jack running out the front door to avoid being speared with a piece of broken glass. But the next scene -- which sometimes appears to be days later -- they're back to feeling ambivalent about each other. It's like we're missing the whole making up portion of the fight, so when they're fighting again right away it doesn't make a whole lot of sense why they stopped in the first place.

And it's not like this couldn't have been included. At least once, to show us exactly what happens between fights, would have helped. Instead, we get a bunch of unnecessary and repetitive scenes that seem to drag on and on even though the film doesn't even last two hours. It certainly feels longer, in large part because it's rare that anything important or new actually happens. These characters seem stuck, going through the same motions over and over, and it gets tiresome to watch.

Eventually, We Don't Live Here Anymore does pick up, and it's at this point when I started caring. It takes a long time to get there, but eventually the film's heart shines through, and you realize that you do kind of care about these people. They're horrible, but most of them are worthy of redemption, and you only hope they'll eventually find it. The performances from four good actors help as well, although it's more just the time spent with these people that eventually leads you to caring. Or perhaps feeling revolted by them. One of the two.

The film does also have a lot to say, although it's often unclear about exactly what. Perhaps it was my own boredom through large sections, but it frequently seemed to be giving off mixed messages about exactly what the characters wanted, and more importantly, what the filmmakers wanted the audience to take from it. Like the emotional attachment, it does eventually get there -- kind of -- but it takes sitting through a lot of tedium to reach that point, and I'm not sure how many people are going to want to do that.

It's hard to recommend We Don't Live Here Anymore, largely because of how much of it feels unnecessary. It only plays for 100 minutes, but it feels a lot longer than that because of how much repetition is included. It also takes a lot longer than it should to get going and make me care, leading to a lot of boring points. It's also frequently confused about what it wants and where it wants to go, and is difficult recommend unless you're willing to trudge through the tedium in order to get to the good stuff.
September 3, 2012
So... Boring... Can't... Reach... Remote... Lungs... Aching... For... Air.

This movie never connects with the characters. I'm not sure what the writers were going for, I kept thinking "so why do I care what happens next?". Its a fatal error that leads the audience to not care what happens to the characters, to make matters worse the plot makes all the characters unlikable to boot. Unfortunately, it's the perfect formula to make a movie that just drags and drags until finally, thankfully, it just ends. Dull doesn't cover it, snooze fest.

Almost as bad as the "The Room", maybe with better acting.
½ August 23, 2012
The film's beauty lies in its incredible realism and the believability of the performances. I'm surprised this didn't receive more praise.
July 29, 2012
Great little movie. Watching it is like eavesdropping on a juicy argument. Exciting, scary, and ultimately sad.
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