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I May Destroy You
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So much of the movie was good, or well done at least--production quality, acting, pacing. I'm writing this because I MUST point out that the nature of Isi and Ossi's relationship is ABUSIVE. As someone who was once in a verbally and emotionally abusive relationship, there are glaring examples everywhere. In fact, there are abusive things that happen throughout the film from various people and I hope no one watching accepts this type of behavior from their partner, male or female, or from their parents. Examples:
1) Ossi roughly punches Isi's arm (oh but it's playful!..ummm it looked painful) A man should never hit a woman with any force from my opinion.
2.) Ossi pushes Isi aggressively to get her out of his car.
3.) At a cafe Ossi literally calls Isi an "Asshole" multiple times then tells her all the reasons why she is one (she doesn't say the things 'right', the way his people do). This is an example of Name Calling.
4.) When she pisses off her father by making out with Ossi, her father tries to hit her in the face. It's a non-issue the way the movie handles it. We're supposed to just shrug that off? wha???
5.) (SPOILER ALERT) When her parents give her access to her money and she fulfills her end of the bargain by sending Ossi the $25K he negotiated, she gently asks if he'd rather not invest it in his career than bailing his mom (once again) out of debts, and on his one $8,000 boxing match. He responds to this by yelling at her, telling her to get out, putting her down for being born wealthy, basically taking out his anger about his shitty life on her for having it too easy. He has a tantrum, like a typical narcissist (or a two year old) when his feelings are hurt rather than manning up, acknowledging he likes her, and being grateful for getting the money they agreed upon as part of the deal they made earlier. What does she do? She, like someone being gaslit (look it up) apologizes for saying the terrible thing about possibly investing the money in his future instead of perpetuating the familial cycle of poverty and believes SHE is the mean one. She's so terrible for caring.
This is when I stopped watching. I absolutely hate it when abusive relationships are portrayed in movies as normal. These things are not normal and shouldn't be considered cute, sexy or even sexually charged banter. There's nothing sexy about one person being really mean to another. A person should not constantly have to defend who they are because someone is tearing them down. That is the nature of an abusive relationship. Constant put downs, name calling and gaslighting. I'm sure if you flashed forward two years in IsiOzzi Land, their relationship would have escalated into a physically abusive one.
Oh, one more thing--their friend meets a girl at a bar and tries (unsuccessfully) to send her a dick pic. Unsolicted dick pics are the equivalent to flashing someone who's out on a nice stroll because she talked to you. No regard for what the woman actually wanted, just showing off his junk because he felt like it.
So many elements of this movie portrayed abusive men as if it were charming, romantic or funny.
For all the women out there (or men--women can be abusive as well) I hope you don't think this is how romance should go...
I'm always a sucker for subtly done movies that focus on young female leads who are finding out about life and who earn the attentions of older men ; )
This movie has a quality that I love in movies: no relationships are concrete, obvious, one dimensional, and nothing is cut and dry. It is profound in that, like life, nothing falls neatly within the lines. Plus, as an actor, I feel that Kieran Culkin is absolutely amazing in this role. He never seemed forced. His acting really moved me.
this movie is very REAL. the relationships in the family don't feel forced at all. it is a sweet movie that doesn't try to be sweet. When it does do something sweet, it does so in a subtle way, so that no one is gagging from disgust.
And so hilarious! there were so many original, quirky moments that would never be part of a Hollywood paint-by-numbers movie. The acting was totally natural (especially standing out in the young, but oh-so-earnest little girl). See it.
It totally had me captivated. you'll be glad you saw it!