i watched lots of 90s chic flicks during adolescence due to my sister, and "my best friend's wedding" is one of them...even now i still think it's probably one of the best chick flicks ever in the history of motion pictures even personally i cannot identify with any of those characters in this movie.(east-coast wasp with too much money and leisure time to dream their mr. right) sometimes i feel it's more fun to watch that kind of picture when you were 16 viewing the life of 28..when you're 27 and almost ready to be 28 next year, everything in this movie appears so unrealisticly cinderellaesque. but the nice thing about this movie is the fact that even cinderella has her downs and irreparable failures. female vanity and paranoic persistence are all rendered well by julia roberts and cameron diaz. one is a woman who is too popular to accept a slip of failure; the other is too naively shrewd to let her beau flee. sometimes that makes you wonder that woman could be like man, who only cherishes his object of affection/desire only when there's some competition going on, like a trophy to assert your pride. it's just female feud is more tenderized and injected with some deeply immersed sentimentality, more apologetically sugar-coated since woman has to pardon herself with some excuse she cannot help. why it doesn't occur to any of these two female leads that you could just walk away and find another man to start anew since you have wealth, looks and social status(good job, well-reputed family)? i suppose if any woman thinks like that in those movies, there won't be any chick flick made. sometimes i feel there's some unspoken complicity in this genre to vie for the favors of men. anyway, the soundtrack is cozily sweet and very fit to the story backset.(one of the best romantic soundtracks) clothes look lovely and those women look modern but also quite elegant. the story has enough dramatic tension, and sometimes it could be touching, especially the boat speech dermot mulroney makes "if you love someone, you must tell right away or that person would never know" along with the melody of "the way you look tonight"(even life is never simplified as THAT)....actually the best fun is to watch julia roberts make a clumsy fool of herself by taking a nosedive while cameron diaz keeps getting on her nerve with her reckless perfectionist demeanors. that hostility could keep the viewer seated for a whole movie. if you wanna be politically sensitive, my best friend's wedding creates a certain typecasting for gay stud (rupert everette), assimilating gays into the mainstream niche of beautiful cosmopolitan woman's second-base substitute for temporal romance, that will later be in everette's movie with madonna and "sex and the city"...it dubs a user-friendly air over gay men in mainstream soapy movies. it's like the black nanny in "gone with the wind", and mainstream movies need that sort of fixed character to represent a certain group to disarm the potential threat to the central values. it's like saying "gee, he is gay but he's kinda harmless and he could be our best friend when we women cannot get a good man on our bed-side"...is it true or i over-speculate it? i do wonder.