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Tying the Knot

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Jim de Sève examines the emotional and legal struggles of a Florida policewoman and an Oklahoma farmer after the deaths of their respective same-sex life partners. De Sève highlights voices on both sides of the same-sex marriage debate and traces the history of marriage as a legal, social and religious construction in the United States, ultimately drawing parallels between the language used to denounce same-sex marriage in the 2000s and the anti-miscegenation rhetoric of the 1950s.
Tying the Knot

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Critics Consensus

Tying the Knot untangles a hot button political issue by putting a personal face on it -- and making its arguments with an effective blend of facts and feelings.

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Mary Brennan Seattle Times 10/22/2004
3.5/4
A quietly effective exploration of the divisive subject of gay marriage in America. Go to Full Review
Eleanor Ringel Cater Atlanta Journal-Constitution 10/14/2004
B
Personalizes the political with two heart-rending real-life cases. Go to Full Review
Michael Rechtshaffen The Hollywood Reporter 10/07/2004
It may not be the most meticulously crafted documentary in the world, but what Tying the Knot lacks in finesse it compensates for in making a heartfelt case for the hot-button topic of same-sex marriage. Go to Full Review
Dave White The Advocate 05/27/2022
Traditional in form, peppered with commentary from academics, lawmakers, and religious conservatives, Knot makes up in sincerity what it lacks in style. Go to Full Review
Jeremy C. Fox Pajiba 09/16/2005
Tying the Knot is effective ... in its depiction of the struggle for same-sex couples to achieve legal equality, but it gives short shrift to the opposing arguments. Go to Full Review
David Cornelius eFilmCritic.com 08/20/2005
3/5
Tying the Knot is a flawed work that succeeds on the merits of its highly touching personal stories and its irrefutable debate. Go to Full Review
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08/05/2012 I cried throughout most of this film...incredibly moving and incredibly depressing. See more 06/28/2012 Even a documentary has to be able to tell a narrative story successfully. Tying the Knot doesn't. It skips from one story to another, jumping in at arbitrary points and then leaving without properly resolution. It does take a stab at being useful by beginning to explore how marriage has changed over the centuries, though even that thesis is discarded all too quickly. This is neither the macro or the micro story of the issue; Tying the Knot ties itself up in knots trying to do too many things at the same time. Not of which are done particularly well, unfortunately. See more 05/22/2012 Very interesting bit on the origins of marriage and changes that have occurred over time... See more 06/10/2011 Not one for crying during films, I confess that a tear welled in my eye on more than one occasion while watching this documentary on the societal constructs of wedlock, and the discrimination against same-sex marriage. Because of the stance the film takes, many people will be turned off to the subject matter. As a documentary, it stood on its feet firmly. Besides showing footage of rallies, the political windbags' testimony before Congress, and using case studies to outline the loss of constitutional rights by widowed partners, there is also a brief overview of the history of the definition of marriage, and several interviews with activists, politicians, clerks, and gay couples. The opposite side of the debate wasn't given much time except for sound bites that weren't taken out of context, but sure made for an interesting argument. In all, half the film made me overwhelmed with sentimentality and the other held contempt and disgust prevalent in my mind. Not pure entertainment, but a message of hope and civil liberties, your enjoyment will be based on frame of mind. See more 04/14/2011 Really informative for those, like me, who don't follow the law and politics to a T. And the second half really shoves real life cases in your face to show that everyone deserves the right to be married (plus the benefits) if they have already committed themselves to that person for such a long time. It can be very frustrating when you see the extreme religious people protesting against gay marriage but for the most part they showed a lot of people who were fighting for it. I just hope one day people will look past their own personal beliefs and realize that any two consenting adults should have the same rights that straight people have had for so many years. See more 01/25/2011 Even a documentary has to be able to tell a narrative story successfully. Tying the Knot doesn't. It skips from one story to another, jumping in at arbitrary points and then leaving without properly resolution. It does take a stab at being useful by beginning to explore how marriage has changed over the centuries, though even that thesis is discarded all too quickly. This is neither the macro or the micro story of the issue; Tying the Knot ties itself up in knots trying to do too many things at the same time. Not of which are done particularly well, unfortunately. See more Read all reviews
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Synopsis Jim de Sève examines the emotional and legal struggles of a Florida policewoman and an Oklahoma farmer after the deaths of their respective same-sex life partners. De Sève highlights voices on both sides of the same-sex marriage debate and traces the history of marriage as a legal, social and religious construction in the United States, ultimately drawing parallels between the language used to denounce same-sex marriage in the 2000s and the anti-miscegenation rhetoric of the 1950s.
Director
Jim de Sève
Producer
Jim de Sève
Distributor
IDP Distribution
Production Co
1,049 Films
Genre
Documentary, LGBTQ+
Original Language
English
Release Date (Theaters)
May 5, 2004, Original
Release Date (Streaming)
Jan 4, 2017
Box Office (Gross USA)
$37.5K
Runtime
1h 25m